Going to a land based casino in a week!

[JlSpitFirelC]

First I must say... Wasn't sure where to post this, so I figured this was the closest to correct spot to write.

Anyways, as the people on here who worry about me know I am 18. (19 on the eleventh!) I have only been to this casino seven times so far because it is 3 - 3 and a half hours away in West Virginia... and to get there we have to drive longer than it typically takes to drive to Atlantic City from where I live in Pennsylvania.

So, simply put, my parents go out of their way occasionally so I can gamble too. (Legal gambling age for land based casinos in West Virginia is 18.)

Well, This week is my parents' anniversary and they are going to Atlantic City and leaving me here to count down the days alone. (While they gamble and do things I don't want to imagine.)

I have to bear with this and not wager any money online because that just means less to play with in Charlestown, the casino, next Friday.

I currently intend on bringing $750-$800 with me as I did last time, but instead of making the same foolish mistake by betting max on the video slots, which are not as friendly as online ones I found out the hard way, I will probably keep my bets between $2 and $3. I may possibly venture into the reel slot area and waste $100-$200 there because reel slots seem to hit more often than video ones I believe.

Anyway... really this post is just for me to vent my excitement because the last time I was in Charlestown was October 27th when I dumped that $800.

I am pretty much trying to think of a plan as to how I want to go about playing there. Which machine areas will I go to first and how much will I play on them.

Of course I would love to win the Cashola jackpot. (Progressive slot that is usually over $1 million.) So I have to put aside $50-$100 for that, but after those two plans, I still have $500-$600 to lose.. I mean play with. (That is to say if I am ridiculously unlucky.)

The slots they have are listed on this page:

Old / Expired Link

if anyone would be kind enough to suggest favorites to me

*Squeals* I JUST CAN'T WAIT!!

I'm going to be there from about 3 pm till 4 am... or until I get nauseous from smoking too many cigarettes.. (I have a nasty habit of lighting one up almost every time I trigger a bonus round - I don't even like smoking nor am I addicted!) - It's just the thrill of the casino.

Now It is bothersome to be asked to show my hand stamp I got at the door every few hours or so to various guys patrolling around the casino floor... (I swear half of them don't even work there.) *Especially that guy who was standing at the urinal next to me* lol Had to say that xD.

Anyway, Yea... It is clear that I am extremely thrilled about this. So please, please give me some good recommendations of games to play so even after every penny I have is spent and I wonder about how I came to have that half penny voucher in my pocket. (Always seems to happen... How can one get a half penny on penny slots?) I will be satisfied and return to my online gambing fixation once again.

- Impatiently awaiting replies..
Barely legal Jeff.. ew no that sounds wrong..
Almost 19 Jeff.. yea that's slightly better.

P.S.
Again I know I am going to be warned that gambling is dangerous, but I do have a very firm understanding on the value of a dollar and I only gamble what I am willing to lose. I actually begin gambling with the thought already in mind that I have lost what I deposited/brought with me.

P.P.S. or P.S.S. *forgot which it is*
I wonder if anyone actually will read this whole thing.

 

[tennis_balls]

just understand that those slots payout about 91.5% which is pretty dreadful.

even Nevada will pay above 94% most places though I realize your options are limited at your age.

when you play slots online set at above 95% and you realize how hard it is to win, the task of winning on 91.5% slots is daunting. a 3% difference in payout is HUGE!

 

[JlSpitFirelC]

Yeah... I actually noticed that today.. But, as you stated - It is my only option given my age.

The real disappointing thing about this is that there are a handful of casinos opening around in Pennsylvania, where I live, but I have to be 21 to gamble in them. Such a sad sad time.

Oh well, Still.. Sitting next to old ladies at the slots and watching some grumpy Asian man bash the screen with his knuckles thinking that it will effect his free spins... You can't put a price on that. *Well the cost of the machine* But still.




BUT OMG

*THAT HITMAN GAME*

It is soo fun.. I may have to save some money for that instead of the landbased casino.

 

[lojo]

What a blast! My misspent youth envies you

Looked at the casino slot list... I'd spend a little time on Sizzlin 7's ... max $100 of bankroll (could eat it pretty quick) bet max (if they're still 3 coins) you have the best payout percentage on slots like this but at $3 a whack they can eat you in a hurry.

Saw a couple of familiar v-slots... Sometimes, it seems that if you pick one near an entrance and also near a cage they can be hotter than some others.

Roulette can be a blast because the only skill involved is quitting if/when you are ahead. It's also worth taking some money too when you're at a profit (you will be now and again, right!?!) and lay it down once on red or black, then walking away no matter win or lose. Double your money for some more slot play or give the profit back to the house in one fell swoop.

Hey, take a camera for some winning screen shots, huh?

Good luck

 

[JlSpitFirelC]

Well I'll bring my camera phone, but I am not really camera phone savvy xD... But when I win a huge jackpot.. I am sure the casino will have cameras for me.. *One can dream right?*

 

[The Dude]

You can practice here on Multi-Strike Poker (one of my favorites)

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You should keep an eye out for this game. Also be aware that Gems is a Hoover Vacuum cleaner - Spearmaster will attest to that.

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has some great games to practice on - try to find Spin Poker Deluxe and Super Times Pay Poker.

As for Slots, Winning Times and Texas Tina are pretty cool. Here is a screenshot of a Winning Times win I had that Spearmaster and Simmo! were witness to

https://sussexmskpartnershipeast.com/static/images/photos/vegas2006/jackpot_winning_times.jpg

I cover some of these and more in last September's Vegas review:
https://sussexmskpartnershipeast.com/static/newsletter/2006/28september2006.html


Good luck and have fun!

 

[JlSpitFirelC]

Oh wow.. The Meister himself helped. Thanks

I will follow everything you say... *because if I don't I'll be banned, right?* jk

Thanks a bunch! I'm checking out those sites now.

Edit:
Big Win!! You are my hero.

 

[ballysdb]

Ahhh...Haywire. That was my first big jackpot in a casino. At Tropicana, actually it was called Tropworld back then. I won $1600.00. I have always loved the old favorites...Wild Cougar, Little Green Men, Winning Bid. Are the slots there the lottery style machines? Anyway have a great time. P.S. I also light up a cig everytime I hit a bonus round!

 

[JlSpitFirelC]

I thought I was unique by doing that.. Awesome!

Today is killing me though... As I said before, my parents are going to Atlantic City for the weekend and when they do I typically just put 50 on a casino or poker room to get my mind off the fact that they are losing tons of money. (LOL) They must be though because they get so many comps.

Anyway I'm dying here because I have to patiently wait for next Friday without spending much.

Sadly I don't have a real chance to do anything else around here because I have to take care of the dogs while my parents are gone.

I have decided that I will be cleaning the house this weekend *Takes about 5-6 hours, but hey I couldn't stand the job our old cleaning woman did.* -Sort of a clean freak.- But I get paid $70 for it, so I have no complaints.

And aside from that I am going to venture into my brother's room that he left a filthy mess when he moved out to his own home... and I am being paid between $50-$100 for that depending on the job I do. So, that should kill time and between that and my daily workouts and laying outside in the sun, I may just remain partially sane by next week.

*Maybe*

P.S.
Ok.. My parents just got this comp'd cruise thing in the mail from an Atlantic City casino.. That means they lost how much money?

Seriously, I always ask them when they get back and they change the subject, I need numbers people.

 

[lojo]

Well Jeff,

The number is 0, zero, nonya!

But if you wanna know what you can expect, different games have different rates, you are rated at different times when you play, etc., you have to ask a host how and when you will be rated, and a nice tip can get you great info. I get anywhere between 20-50% of my losses (50% was a rarity in one of the last places you'd expect downtown Vegas)
I usually get around ten bucks an hour back on ten dollar bets at roulette.

But remember, you do not have to lose to get comps! It's based on your play, not wins or losses, so maybe your folks are not losing at all

edit... oh yeah, ever look at the room price in the megacasinos posted on the motel door? I've had that used against my comps... over $400 a night when in fact without comps mid-week you can get the room for anywhere from 70-170 a night. But it's a comp, right?

 

[JlSpitFirelC]

Yes, They even have their own little cheery guy who calls the house every freaking day. *Wants to kill Jim* lol

But yea it's all free to them.. as far as I know.

 

[lojo]

Casino telemarketer? Okay, Host

What I meant to say is that you get comps whether you win or lose.

Figure 40% of expected loss. Based on EV (house edge) of particular games played. But it can vary greatly. And it's hard to know, if you don't ask, how and when you are being rated. Some just do it overall based on a 'clubcard', others, you can go to a table, ask about ratings and comps, give them your card and bet large for awhile to get a better rating overall. ime

We only go four or five times a year, and spread it out over toooo many casinos to get good comps for the most part.

 

[liquidsoap]

I am heading to mountaineer tommoroow!!!
Can't wait!!!
Flordia derby is running tommorow also too.

 

[lojo]

I am heading to mountaineer tommoroow!!!
Can't wait!!!
Flordia derby is running tommorow also too.

Good Luck and have a great time

Reno Sunday for us. Don't see any pony action yet but will look in the book. MLB opening and NCAA... probably stick to roulette and some slots, but ya never know.

 

[EasyRhino]

Jeffers, I was going to recommend doing a little study on a game like blackjack, but WV doesn't have table games yet, does it? Are there going to have any actual horse racing going on? I'm have no idea how horse betting works, but I had a good time at the track the one time I went.

And, and also, EIGHT HUNDRED DOLLAR FOR AN EIGHTEEN YEAR OLD!?!

Cripes.

 

[JlSpitFirelC]

lol.. Ive done horse betting several times.. There is a track about 30-45 mins away from my house.

Table games won't be in West Virginia until later this year unfortunately, but I am nothing special at blackjack. My brother told me to stay away from roulette because he had a bad streak on it and I tend to listen to my brother on most things.

$800 dollars for an almost 19 year old that is. Yes, I agree $800 dollars could be considered a lot for me to be gambling with, but as I said earlier, I only will bring/wager what I am alright with losing.

I suppose you could say the value of a dollar to me is slightly different than it is to other people my age because of how I came to understand it from my brother. He always made money through a number of online business ventures and the way I noticed, was that you had to do...

You know what? Just take my word for it..

I only risk the most of what I should allow myself.

 

[lojo]

Hope the Ponies were good to liquid today

I get maybe a couple hours sleep before the adrenaline of the jets. (I hate flying, especially hungover)

I'll be the guy who made or busted on the wheel to cover the last two and a half months of BULLSH*T!

I'm not going to 'quit gambling' when I get back but i am going to re-examine my priorities: win or lose.

If it isn't fun, why do it?

 

[BingoT]

Hope you have great luck.

Hope you have great luck.
Boy no one ever says they are going to Foxwoods or the Mohegan Sun in here lol.
I'm almost out the door to spend the night at the Sun tonight.
Come on lets go and come to the casino's here in CT.

 

[ballysdb]

Hey Bingo! I go to Mohegan Sun alot. I just don't have any extra money right now or I would be there. Next time I gamble that is where I'll be. I love A/C but with the new smoking rules (can only smoke in 25% of the casino floor) I cant see driving 3 hours to fight over a jam packed area of the slot floor with angry smokers such as myself! I understand how non smokers feel, and they deserve areas without smoking... I just used to love going there and being free to light up in the halls or on the escalator, basically anywhere I wanted to. Of course I USED to be able to smoke and gamble right on my couch but that is gone now too...I was just looking on my computer at Yonkers Raceway and "casino". They have the lottery type machines. Did you know you only have to be 18 to play there?

 

[tim5ny]

Hope you have great luck.
Boy no one ever says they are going to Foxwoods or the Mohegan Sun in here lol.
I'm almost out the door to spend the night at the Sun tonight.
Come on lets go and come to the casino's here in CT.

I used to make the trek to those 2 casinos twice a week for the longest time. 4 1/2 hours drive each way. Not anymore! One time I even forgot my wallet and didn't notice until I got there. I had something else in my back pocket and thought it was my wallet when I felt for it before I left, but when I arrived I reached for my wallet and out came a brush. I had to turn around and come home. That was a nice 9 hours!

While I'm on that note, another time years ago I drove to Atlantic City and let my daughter stay at her friend's house for the night and then they would go to school together the next morning. Drove the 6 1/2 hours and called her when I got there to make sure she was okay. She was only about 6 yrs. old then. She told me that she wasn't feeling well, so I hopped in the car and drove back after throwing a couple hundred in the 5 dollar VP as fast as I could. No enjoyment that night either.

 

[liquidsoap]

Well, right when I hit the first 3 races.
I went out there doubled my money in the first 2 races (THANKS TO THE DOGS), and proceded to blow it playing big horse bets.
Played an $100 pick 6, which I lost in the first race!
DANG! Santa Anita!!!
I did pick the flordia derby right though.
But I could have did that from home.

All in all it was a decent trip, and I only deposited $10 into a slot machine!

 

[JlSpitFirelC]

Glad to hear you had a good time.

 

[winbig]

P.S.
Ok.. My parents just got this comp'd cruise thing in the mail from an Atlantic City casino.. That means they lost how much money?

They were comped a cruise??? Nice....I have so many rooms comped down in AC with the Harrah's group, I could stay down there for free for almost a month straight, but I was never offered a cruise

And to answer your question, they don't neccesarily have to have lost money to get comped so good. As long as they're giving quite a bit of action, the comps will flow in pretty steadily.

If they're playing big, then whomever comped the cruise is hoping for a big score while they're on the cruise

 

[JlSpitFirelC]

Well... They play penny slots (lol) but when they do, they stay for like a weekend continuously playing... I asked my mom how much they lost this weekend, like I always do to tick them off, but she just said enough.

They typically lose money. Probably between $500-$2000+? a month?

I'm not really sure, but they insist they never lose $2000. I can't really believe them for that though because when we are in Charlestown, West Virginia, the one place I can gamble freely, they lose about $600-$1000 together... and that is in less than a 8 hour period.

Now from what I've gathered from them, is that they often go down from their room during the night and also play. So... there seems to be constant action going on. And in a 2 day period I'd imagine they dump somewhere between my guess.

If they saw this thread, lol, they'd probably kill me, but I think it makes sense for the most part.

Both my brother and I believe they are using the money they stored for his college fund or the large some of money my mother is inheriting when my grandmother dies, but my mom freaked out when I said that and told me that it was a horrible thing to think. I unno.. There has to be somewhere this money is coming from because they never come home screaming and freaking out that they won more than $3000 *that one time* But really.. if that's the case, isn't it just better to play online?

Seems i win more than that when I play.

Anyway just getting my thoughts out in the open. By the way, my brother thinks negatively upon gambling so his assumptions are most likely biased toward my parents because of that fact. He knows I gamble, but he isn't as irritated with it because, as we see it, I have much less responsibility than them. Truely, I love my parents and believe them, but even if I do, I still doubt my beliefs... if that sounds right.

Anyway, I mean it isn't like they can't afford to occasionally lose some money in the casino, but when they reason it out with ordering a ton of room service as well as how every thing they do their is comp'd and they abuse that fact when they are down. It doesn't help alter the way I have started to believe this.

Then there is the other confusing factor. They wear their emotions on their sleeves. It is clear to me when they are depressed, but they seem to hide it when they return from the casino.

Anyway I worry too much. It is clear that I do.. Hell I even take pills for it... and gambling can't help it.

But.. No way in hell my parents or I am quitting so it is just something we have to deal with.

P.S.
My brother also tends to think my parents spend money that belongs to him a lot. So that is also another thing to keep in mind during his accusations.

-Seriously long post

 

[EasyRhino]

I used to make the trek to those 2 casinos twice a week for the longest time. 4 1/2 hours drive each way.

Ugh, I'd shoot myself.

Last month I went to Vegas for two long weekends in a row to hand out with my stepdad (who was in town for a conference). But it's a five hour drive each way. And the "Vegas traffic" on Friday or Sunday?! It was just miserable. Even though Vegas was fun, no way I'd do that on a regular basis. Course, I have friendly Indians willing to fade my action only 45 min away if I need to get my gamble on.

And ya know Jeffy, it was interesting running around with casinos with my stepdad. He's a slot player, and was mainly playing the quarters (sometimes dollar machines). He was also in Vegas for almost two weeks, so he was reliably losing. It got to the point where he just started getting burned-out on the slots, since I think he was hitting "the long run" just during that trip. I even tried to get him to play a little blackjack with me, and that lost its novelty quickly with him, I think he just burned out on the gambling.

What didn't help the situation was that I was counting cards, and betting fairly big at the blackjack tables, plus I had a lucky run during the trip, so we had several stops where we'd go into a casino, he'd lose (big), and I'd win (big). It began to be a transfer of money from him to me, and I think that alternately impressed him and pissed him off. I had to pay for dinner a few times.

 

[tennis_balls]

Now from what I've gathered from them, is that they often go down from their room during the night and also play. So... there seems to be constant action going on.

...is this action in the casino or back in the room?

 

[happygobrokey]

nice burn t_b, i just posted about you in another thread

the action was constant, which means in the elevator down from the room too

 

[JlSpitFirelC]

Thank you for giving me that horrible image in my head.. I think I am going to kill myself now.

 

[Simmo!]

... it was interesting running around with casinos with my stepdad. He's a slot player, and was mainly playing the quarters (sometimes dollar machines). He was also in Vegas for almost two weeks, so he was reliably losing. It got to the point where he just started getting burned-out on the slots, since I think he was hitting "the long run" just during that trip. I even tried to get him to play a little blackjack with me, and that lost its novelty quickly with him, I think he just burned out on the gambling.

When I went I found the same - the slots just didnt pay. I switched to Multi-strike VP and Spin Poker and had way more fun. I'd thoroughly recommend those two games as alternatives to the slots out there.

 

[BingoT]

Well the trip to The Mohegan Sun was great.
I would stay again. Overall Mohegan Sun is better.I think the rooms are cleaner and they have real coffee in the rooms.
The wife was winning and I'm not going to tell you how I was doing lol.All I can say was she Wins and she gives me money.
I only live 45 mins from Mohegan Sun but we get free rooms all the time so why not lets go.
We drove to Foxwoods also in the weekend to drop off the Bingo Bugle Bingo Newspapers.I won alittle but the wife won more
But if anyone goes please tell me so we can party and i'll treat ya for dinner sometime.
And if you ever go to Bingo on a Sunday at Foxwoods i'll get your bingo pack for ya at a better price too that's if I have a bingo bus that day.
All my trips are on Sunday's for Bingo.

Have a great day
Happy Easter to all
Tom

 

[frufrugirl]

JlSpit, It sounds like you are worried about your parents. Besides telling them how you feel there is not much you can do but support them in their right to have weekends together. Believe me, I know couples who spend upward to a thou once a month just having dinner,theater and golf sessions! So, if they can afford it, let it go. I know I enjoy going to the casinos and I always feel blue after I lose, even if I have lost my budgeted money. I spent 8 hours playing 60.00 the other evening and had a ball, but still felt weird coming home with only 62.00. Maybe thats what your parents were feeling! LOLOLOl !

Take care..and talk to your parents if you are feeling too worried ok?

 

[BingoT]

Hi JlSpit,

Hi JlSpit,
We all have our bad habits but you know we also have great support groups too.And we all need to get out of the busy lives we all have too A time to get away from the kids lol we need that at times but don't over due it. like this past weekend my wife and I went to the casino and we ate,drank,had a great night stay and even had a coupon from Mohegan to spend $100.00 in any store and came home with alittle too. One week you may lose but the next time you may win. That's what gambling is.I say call one up and set a date to come in with your parents and just Listen to what people have to say and it just might help them out.
And we all know what people will say "I don't have a gambling problem"
Get the help you need before it's too late.
Like on all my trips I do to the casinos here in CT I get phone calls all the time about how parents have no money to even play bingo or buy something to eat and they gamble gamble everything away.And as for my support I don't call them to go anymore because if they don't hear from me they don't go.
As for online gaming everyone has it so convenient in their own home I think it's real bad if you gamble.The plastic card has allot of power.I have seen many rake up the cards that way.and they can't pull themselves out of debt
I'm sorry if I sound like a preacher.
Best of luck to you and your family.

Tom

On April 11th Have a Great Birthday too.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY
JlSpit

 

[soflat]

Skip the video slots and play video poker & Sizzling 7s.

 

[silcnlayc]

***Rant** Please forgive***

Both my brother and I believe they are using the money they stored for his college fund

This money is still your PARENTS hard earned money.

My brother also tends to think my parents spend money that belongs to him a lot

How much of this money did your brother contribute to call it HIS?

The reason I am saying this is because as a gambler that goes to Atlantic City with my husband and sons, if either of my children EVER questioned me on what I did with MY money, I would tell them flat out, it is none of their business.

I asked my mom how much they lost this weekend, like I always do to tick them off, but she just said enough.

I worked for it, I can spend it any way I want without reporting to my CHILDREN!

Good grief, where do kids think they get off telling parents what to do with money that they worked for thinking it belongs to them?

One thing I tell both of my boys is, that, when I am dead, they can have the rest. And only then. Otherwise it still belongs to me and my husband.

I can't really believe them for that though because when we are in Charlestown, West Virginia, the one place I can gamble freely, they lose about $600-$1000 together

Why do you care? It is NOT yours to worry about.

My husband and I take anywhere between $2000-$5000 a trip. Stay for a few nights and enjoy ourselves with free rooms and free meals the entire time. It is like a mini vacation a few times a year for us.

This time we are taking both my sons to celebrate our 35th anniversary and have 3 rooms free for the week. If they even thought of asking how much we spent to get these rooms...they would never be invited again, but they have never questioned, suggested or even acknowledged our spending for they know it is NONE of their business, except for when they are hungry and want us to cover their dinners .

but my mom freaked out when I said that and told me that it was a horrible thing to think

IT IS!

Children are not OWED anything.

I suggest you let your parents enjoy themselves and not say another thing about how they spend their hard earned money. It is very disrespectful IMO and again NONE of YOUR business!.

 

[gfkostas]

I worked for it, I can spend it any way I want without reporting to my CHILDREN!

The same of course applies to all of your people not just the children. I wouldn't like to give reports either

 

[JlSpitFirelC]

Hi JlSpit,
We all have our bad habits but you know we also have great support groups too.And we all need to get out of the busy lives we all have too A time to get away from the kids lol we need that at times but don't over due it. like this past weekend my wife and I went to the casino and we ate,drank,had a great night stay and even had a coupon from Mohegan to spend $100.00 in any store and came home with alittle too. One week you may lose but the next time you may win. That's what gambling is.I say call one up and set a date to come in with your parents and just Listen to what people have to say and it just might help them out.
And we all know what people will say "I don't have a gambling problem"
Get the help you need before it's too late.
Like on all my trips I do to the casinos here in CT I get phone calls all the time about how parents have no money to even play bingo or buy something to eat and they gamble gamble everything away.And as for my support I don't call them to go anymore because if they don't hear from me they don't go.
As for online gaming everyone has it so convenient in their own home I think it's real bad if you gamble.The plastic card has allot of power.I have seen many rake up the cards that way.and they can't pull themselves out of debt
I'm sorry if I sound like a preacher.
Best of luck to you and your family.

Tom

On April 11th Have a Great Birthday too.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY
JlSpit

No seriously I don't have a problem.. and that just sounds like denial.. and them? I don't think they do either, I just get mad when they go to the casino because I can't.

I know your concerned, but honestly.. I do know my limit and there is never a time when I don't stop when I reach it.

Seriously do not worry about me. I am not like one of those college students who lose their tuition and then rob a bank. *That actually happened a few miles away from my house.*

Thanks about the birthday wish though

 

[JlSpitFirelC]

Skip the video slots and play video poker & Sizzling 7s.

Sizzling 7s is that reel slot with 7s and firey 7s and if you get them lines up like this: 7<7>7 (firey kind) you win the jackpot. Yea, I played that a lot last time actually.

 

[JlSpitFirelC]

This money is still your PARENTS hard earned money.How much of this money did your brother contribute to call it HIS?

The reason I am saying this is because as a gambler that goes to Atlantic City with my husband and sons, if either of my children EVER questioned me on what I did with MY money, I would tell them flat out, it is none of their business. I worked for it, I can spend it any way I want without reporting to my CHILDREN!

Good grief, where do kids think they get off telling parents what to do with money that they worked for thinking it belongs to them?

One thing I tell both of my boys is, that, when I am dead, they can have the rest. And only then. Otherwise it still belongs to me and my husband.

Why do you care? It is NOT yours to worry about.

My husband and I take anywhere between $2000-$5000 a trip. Stay for a few nights and enjoy ourselves with free rooms and free meals the entire time. It is like a mini vacation a few times a year for us.

This time we are taking both my sons to celebrate our 35th anniversary and have 3 rooms free for the week. If they even thought of asking how much we spent to get these rooms...they would never be invited again, but they have never questioned, suggested or even acknowledged our spending for they know it is NONE of their business, except for when they are hungry and want us to cover their dinners .

IT IS!

Children are not OWED anything.

I suggest you let your parents enjoy themselves and not say another thing about how they spend their hard earned money. It is very disrespectful IMO and again NONE of YOUR business!.

Ok there is seriously reason behind this, I know it sounds like I am just picking at things that are none of my business, but let me explain a little to you before you hate me. lol


First let me say this: My brother although he knows it is not true teases my parents by saying they must be spending his college fund because he dropped out and plans on going back in a few years.

*He's extremely successful by the way, not one of those drop outs that work at fast food restaurants*

and now for my brother's and my logic: (Of course his is better grammatically) lol

5 years ago my father was caught up in a mess and had his lawyer license suspended. What happened was the place his office was at, a mobile home selling building, began stealing money from the people who were buying from them. While we were in Florida at that time, his secretary forged his signature on many of the closings and brought my dad into the mess.

It was even bigger because my dad also had a job for the township.

So during that time, my dad had to get another job *in Maryland from my Cousin* where he made probably around $50,000 less onto the $30,000 he stopped making from his county position.

That is when this whole casino thing started as well as both my parents smoking. Now.. smoking is not such a big deal, but when they are gambling and losing money along with my father making less during that time, it really is my business.

Anyway after 4 years the case finally settled and my uncle paid off the money my dad was accused of. Even though he didn't do it. He just recently got his license back.. FINALLY. (Think it settled with something called A R D) dunno what that means, but I am pretty sure that is how it ended.

I just wanted you guys to know that I am not a complete asshole about this with my parents, but instead I feel it is necessary that I know how much they lose because I am concerned.

Anyway, I am sure from that you can see I have more of a right to know than your children who just bother you about it.

It is something that my brother and I need to have peace of mind over because of these past few years... now I am sure you can't find fault with me here. That is definitely a family issue.

 

[silcnlayc]

but when they are gambling and losing money along with my father making less during that time, it really is my business.

How so, you didn't earn the money the choose to use.

but instead I feel it is necessary that I know how much they lose because I am concerned

Why? Not your business.

It is something that my brother and I need to have peace of mind over because of these past few years

Why? You are both grown adults that should be making a life for yourselves instead of meddling in your parents. They got there without your help.

It still isn't your business what your parents choose to do with their life. They are grown ups.

He just recently got his license back

Sounds like he has control of his situation without any help from you or your brother. How else did your brother "almost" finish college if not for your parents handling of their life and situation and their money that allowed him to go for as long as he did.?

I still don't see how you can say it's your right to know and question your own parents in what they, as adults, choose to do with their quiet time away from work and home.

Thats like your own kids (when you have them) or even your own brother meddling in your love/sex/financial life. Would you allow this? I don't think so, and neither would I, as a parent.

I don't mean to offend, and please don't take it that way, but your really need to find something other than focusing on your parents life and choices for they seem to be doing ok, with getting this issue cleaned up and getting his license back. Which is what grown people do, as Elvis says, take care of business, which it seems they have.

 

[JlSpitFirelC]

Ok.. I don't think anything I say will convince you why I feel I should know... I have already explained it and you have already taken your position.

It is only natural you will be unwilling to think otherwise. Instead of just pinning the negativity of it, given the circumstances, it is a family matter.

Not going more into it than that because to someone who had an open mind on the subject they could teeter either way.

But in most cases, because this is a gambling forum of mostly adults, it seems pointless to even try to reason it.

Anyway, I do understand you are only voicing your opinion and I am not angry at you, I just thought I would try to let you know why I was worried and show you that it is different from your children nitpicking at your playing.

*There* I think we can both agree to that, correct?

Edit:
Screw it lol.. It is true it is none of my business.. Doesn't mean I am going to stop asking though.

 

[frufrugirl]

I do agree with Sil to a point, do you not understand that your picking at your parents may actually be the reason why they try and cover up their emotions when they return from their trip? It may be contributing to their anxiety? Talk to your brother about this, leave them alone and go forth and prosper...life awaits you...let your parents live theirs.



Ps...have you tried American Reel Slots? nice payouts.

 

[JlSpitFirelC]

I do agree with Sil to a point, do you not understand that your picking at your parents may actually be the reason why they try and cover up their emotions when they return from their trip? It may be contributing to their anxiety? Talk to your brother about this, leave them alone and go forth and prosper...life awaits you...let your parents live theirs.



Ps...have you tried American Reel Slots? nice payouts.

LOL

I liked that

Truth is though.. I am the one with severe anxiety *Just was told about it by my doctor* Hadn't even known about it.

But yea I worry too much and piss em off a lot too.

Reel slots.. or is there one called specifically: American Reel slots?

I do play them occasionally and I know the payout is better, but there arent as many old friendly people at those as there are at the video slots.. and that's half the casino experience.

 

[BingoT]

You ever consider getting a little help by a professional?
You air out some good dirty laundry here.
I know the Internet is a somewhat place to get some support but not a good choice.
Family matters is not a good topic.And not the put down talk.
You only have one set of parents in this life once they go that's it.No one here for you. Make the best of it and let them enjoy life because it's to short in the first place.
Or all you saying if they don't have fun they won't spent the money so if they die today without spending a dime that means you and your brother will have more.
One of my great saying is "As long as my kids have money I left them to put us in the ground I will rest in peace forever"
As a Nurse I see Family %$&^ everyday at work Kids fighting over the most little things in life.But on the other side of the coin Money is the Root of All Evil
I would bet that everyone has heard that phrase, "money is the root of all evil," and instantly agreed. Money has been known to tear apart families, communities, and countries
Just take day by day and hope the best for all in your family.

The anxiety did your doctor give you any meds for this? and if so what type & Mil.

 

[ballysdb]

I am sooooo glad my parents didn't worry so much about money. They both gambled and went to A/C every month. Sure I would have liked them to teach me to be a little more responsible with money, but that's not the point. My father worked hard and my mother took care of us. They were the two most loving parents I could have hoped for. After my Dad passed away I had 8 more precious years with my mom. I took her gambling as often as I could. Yes she was worried about her bills, but i took her to A/C and Mohegan Sun a month before she got sick and suddenly the bills didn't matter anymore. What mattered was that she had fun and LIVED until the end. For that i am grateful. Ahhhh...I feel good getting that off my chest.

 

[BingoT]

God Bless them both

I am sooooo glad my parents didn't worry so much about money. They both gambled and went to A/C every month. Sure I would have liked them to teach me to be a little more responsible with money, but that's not the point. My father worked hard and my mother took care of us. They were the two most loving parents I could have hoped for. After my Dad passed away I had 8 more precious years with my mom. I took her gambling as often as I could. Yes she was worried about her bills, but i took her to A/C and Mohegan Sun a month before she got sick and suddenly the bills didn't matter anymore. What mattered was that she had fun and LIVED until the end. For that i am grateful. Ahhhh...I feel good getting that off my chest.

I have to say AMEN to that
And God Bless them both
Ballysdb very good

 

[JlSpitFirelC]

You ever consider getting a little help by a professional?

Yea... I think I am done with this board... As I had already said it is pointless to even suggest gambling faults about adults to adults.

Anyway... the pills.. Took them a few times and did not like how they made me feel.. and it was Buspar.

 

[BingoT]

I am proud of you

JlSpitFirelC I am proud of you now by saying Yes to:
You ever consider getting a little help by a professional?
It takes a bigger person to say they will get help.
And please don't go we are all here for you.
And if you need someone to talk to please PM me and I won't say a word.
In the Nursing field we do help many that need a helping hand.

Buspar it's good for some people.
Tell your doctor to give you some Citalopram hbr tabs that might help what you need in life.

And again I want to say Happy Birthday to you and what a better time to start something new on your day on April 11th

Hugs and more Hugs comes your way.
Again I'm Proud of you now.

 

[jenn1381]

I can sympathize with you Jl... All my life my parents have been a little eccentric $ wise.. My mom especially always has to have the best of everything and she has to have it right now - and she doesn't work, so they are a one income family. I used to fight against it, especially when I saw they were getting into trouble.

I recently, however, came to my senses. I still live at home for 2 reasons... #1 the cost of living here is rediculous. I could swing it now but that leads me to...
#2 I help in the care of my grandmother who has Alzheimer's disease. She lives with us part time and it is not something my mom can handle easily on her own.
Now because I still live at home my parents think they can run my life as they did when I was a child. I allowed it for many years and am just now saying no, I will run my life and decide what's best for me. In this realization, I came to know that my nagging towards them when it comes to money or anything else really, is the same sort of idea. Their lives are our buisness, their well being is our buisness, but what they choose to do or not do is not our buisness. Just as we don't want them interfering in our personal matters, they deserve the same respect. It's hard to let go for people like us, I think you are much like myself in that you want to nurture everyone and make sure they are ok. We just need to remember that as our parents, they will not take our nagging well, as they are the parents and in their eyes we will always be their little ones, no matter how old we are.

It's hard, but give them the same kind of space that you would want for yourself.. I bet you find your relationship gets better and they respect you for letting them live as they choose, regardless of the concequences.

Good luck at the casino I am going to our land based casino this weekend too, luckily it's only 15 minutes away and I get there often.

 

[JlSpitFirelC]

Unfortunately, I still don't know what I need to seek professional help for...

I just though that was an insult to me.

And again.. If it was something about gambling and money wise, I do have more than enough to gamble with. I think tha is something that unless you knew me personally, you would have he wrong idea, *with my age and all*

And let me add.. I am writing this post from an Atlantic City *Resorts* hotel room as my mom plays a 200 dollar comp she received.



Anyway, seriously, please tell me what I should seek professional help for because as far as I understood he original comment, it was a low blow. But after you thought I agreed to it, you sounded sincere, so please PM me.

I was just annoyed by the original challenge to my judgement by silcnlayc because she does not know my parents.

But again, I know it was with good intention because her kids do the same to her.

Anyway, I can see this forum is a caring place, just felt here that I was being ganged up on because of my age.

*But please.. why do I need professional help*

 

[JlSpitFirelC]

Sympathy... FINALLY

I can sympathize with you Jl... All my life my parents have been a little eccentric $ wise.. My mom especially always has to have the best of everything and she has to have it right now - and she doesn't work, so they are a one income family. I used to fight against it, especially when I saw they were getting into trouble.

I recently, however, came to my senses. I still live at home for 2 reasons... #1 the cost of living here is rediculous. I could swing it now but that leads me to...
#2 I help in the care of my grandmother who has Alzheimer's disease. She lives with us part time and it is not something my mom can handle easily on her own.
Now because I still live at home my parents think they can run my life as they did when I was a child. I allowed it for many years and am just now saying no, I will run my life and decide what's best for me. In this realization, I came to know that my nagging towards them when it comes to money or anything else really, is the same sort of idea. Their lives are our buisness, their well being is our buisness, but what they choose to do or not do is not our buisness. Just as we don't want them interfering in our personal matters, they deserve the same respect. It's hard to let go for people like us, I think you are much like myself in that you want to nurture everyone and make sure they are ok. We just need to remember that as our parents, they will not take our nagging well, as they are the parents and in their eyes we will always be their little ones, no matter how old we are.

It's hard, but give them the same kind of space that you would want for yourself.. I bet you find your relationship gets better and they respect you for letting them live as they choose, regardless of the concequences.

Good luck at the casino I am going to our land based casino this weekend too, luckily it's only 15 minutes away and I get there often.

I'm glad I have someone who knows where I am coming from. Well, I think the reason for my insistance on knowing how they do is because I have something about me that makes me want to tell them how I do when I play. No matter whether I win or lose an amount over $50, something in me makes me want to tell them and I won't have peace of mind until I do. I am an honest kid and I can't see them not doing it in a similar way. (If that makes sense.)